We all want to move past stereotypes and feel like we belong. Stereotypes go beyond even opinions of people who are different. There are even stereotypes within your own group. We all live with stereotypes. Even if we don't want to admit it, we do.
Everyone wants to feel like they belong. That's probably why most people stick to people who they feel they can most identify with. I know that I would feel very uncomfortable trying to hang out with a multi-millionaire. I wouldn't feel like I have anything in common with them. What would we talk about? Suspicion arises when someone who is different from you asks you to join them for an outing. Is it possible their motives are less than kind? Do they want you around for amusement? Are you a novelty to them? Honestly, if you have ever been in this situation do you not wonder?
As long as people want something from you they will tolerate your (choose an option) offensive/boring/irritating behavior. Once they get what they want they will disappear from your life.
Am I being to harsh? Maybe. But, keep in mind I'm following the wisdom of the Sopranos. Many people don' t make it out alive on this series. Anything less than complete frankness just will not cut it on this blog...
Monday, July 18, 2011
Sunday, July 3, 2011
The Wisdom of the Sopranos Part 9 (Season 1: Episode 9 Boca)
If you have ever been to a children's ballgame you will see parents who seemed more motivated than their own children to win. It's as if the parents are trying to relive their own childhood through their children.
It's important that as a loyal friend you know when you are being told something in confidence even if it's not explicitly stated. Be sensitive to what should be kept private about someone even before they ask you to not talk about it. When you know someone so well and they reveal something they might be thinking that due to the nature of your relationship that is already private and that you will not discuss with others. Revealing secrets can sever a relationship irreparably.
We all feel at one time or the other that we have the responsibility to set things right - even when we are not directly involved. It's important to understand these feelings and have an appropriate response. It's not always our responsibility to act. Be careful to not be the judge and jury.
Just some raw human stuff...staring down your prey long enough can be an effective method to gaining submission. Also, remember to choose your words wisely. Insults can lead to counter insults which can get out of control.
As our society seems to be more and more casual in our dress and appearance this reflects a societal change. "Values today, standards are crumbling." Nicely said Artie Bucco!
It's important that as a loyal friend you know when you are being told something in confidence even if it's not explicitly stated. Be sensitive to what should be kept private about someone even before they ask you to not talk about it. When you know someone so well and they reveal something they might be thinking that due to the nature of your relationship that is already private and that you will not discuss with others. Revealing secrets can sever a relationship irreparably.
We all feel at one time or the other that we have the responsibility to set things right - even when we are not directly involved. It's important to understand these feelings and have an appropriate response. It's not always our responsibility to act. Be careful to not be the judge and jury.
Just some raw human stuff...staring down your prey long enough can be an effective method to gaining submission. Also, remember to choose your words wisely. Insults can lead to counter insults which can get out of control.
As our society seems to be more and more casual in our dress and appearance this reflects a societal change. "Values today, standards are crumbling." Nicely said Artie Bucco!
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