Part of a child's development into adults is to learn from their mistakes. Therefore, as a parent you shouldn't throw the choices they made in their faces when the decisions they made go bad.
It's possible when someone seems angry at you about something it actually doesn't have anything at all to do with what just happened. Instead the incident may have triggered a memory of something completely unrelated. Fish triggers a memory for Tony and a dispute over orange juice between Carmella and Tony is not what it seems.
There is a another situation of an illusion of reality. The older generation revere doctors. Doctors can do no wrong in their eyes. Especially doctors who have a name like Kennedy. Uncle Junior revered his Doctor Kennedy so much that he made excuses for the doctor. But Tony, a younger man than his Uncle Junior wasn't as impressed with the Doctor and dealt with the situation in the only way someone like Tony could. Intimidation disguised as generosity while invading the Doctor's personal space.
Sometimes you try to do the right thing and it backfires. For example, when Dr. Kennedy goes to the Medical Board about Uncle Jr. to discuss treatment plans Dr. Kennedy decides that although he thinks surgery is best he doesn't want another doctor to second guess his decision so he goes with chemo.
It's best to talk to the person you are having an issue with then taking it over their head. Give them an opportunity to address the issue first. If it isn't resolved then you can proceed to the next level.
If you are going to the doctor for a serious condition it's a good idea to bring someone with you that has some understanding of medicine. When you go to speak to your doctor about something serious you know you aren't paying 100% attention - how can you? Your upset. You need someone who is neutral and can ask the right questions and can then explain it to your family later.
Carmella makes a huge decision in this episode. She goes to a psychologist of her own and admits for the first time out loud what her husband does for a living. The doctor told her he would not take her money. It was blood money. He told her that she needed to take her children and leave immediately. He told her to take nothing...no money and no belongings. It would be wrong as it was money tainted by the impurity of crime. When Carmella is confronted like this she has a decision to make. Does she cleanse herself of the sins of her family or does she stay? She decides to stay but there is a cost to Tony. He has to agree to give $50,000 to Meadow's College. A shake down as Tony described it earlier. Carmella tells him he must do it...he needs to do it for her. Of course he relented and gave in. I wonder though what would have happened at that point if he had said no? He didn't know what was a stake with that answer. (I for one would never think Carmella would leave that house with nothing but the clothes on her back.)
Spoiler Alert...If you haven't actually watched the entire catalog of Sopranos don't read any further...(Why are you waiting by the way???) Knowing what is going to happen in the future when you watch these episodes over again adds a new level of understanding. It takes a great deal of planning and strategy to line up these story lines. It's obvious that David Chase knew where he was going with these character's development. (At least up until the last two season - but maybe when I re-watch I'll change my opinion.) Uncle Jr's incident with the blender...just like the time he put his hand in the sink drain made me realize they were showing us his descent into dementia.
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