Christopher Columbus Day, Native Americans, Italian stereotypes and childhood trauma all combine to make this episode's theme victimization. Everyone is a victim.
Paulie is in jail and causing problems from within. Since he's not around no one suspects that he is the leak spilling family business to New York to gain favor. As Tony says, "someone is talking too much and costing me money". Sometimes its easier to instigate trouble when you appear at a distance.
You never know when it's the last time you see or talk to someone. Be sure to tell them you love them (okay, only if you love them) so if it is the last time you know they went out knowing it (and you'll feel better about that last interaction too).
Don't bite the hand the feeds you Padre. The Priest had a speaker that talked about Italian stereotypes of Italians being in the mob. You could feel the embarrassment Carmela and her family friends felt sitting at that table. It seems the Soprano family has given a great deal of money to the parish and perhaps the Priest should have been more careful about subjecting Carmela to the humiliation. (However, I think the Priest erred earlier when he actually took money from the Sopranos.)
There gets to be a point in a protest where you just go too far and violence erupts. We've seen this played out recently (unfortunately). It happens in this episode when some friendly Italian guys came to voice their concerns about the Native Americans protesting the Christopher Columbus holiday. Things can quickly get out of control.
Janice, Tony's absolutely manipulative sister is seeing a counselor. They don't say but I'm pretty sure from the way this woman interacts with Janice that she's not qualified professional. Of course, Janice wouldn't want real growth. She just wants sympathy. Janice was talking about how much she suffered as a child. Janice acts of it she is the ultimate poster child for victims. Which she isn't. If you know what answers you want to hear, find someone who will tell it to you. Also, if you can't muster the courage to end a relationship just make up a stupid reason to argue.
There is no such thing as a free ride. Tony was reminded of this when an Native American Indian Chief invited him and this associates to a casino. What the Chief ultimately wanted was Frankie Valli to perform at the Casino. He figured Tony could make the call.
This episode ended, appropriately enough, with Tony asking the question about what ever happened to Gary Cooper? He was talking about the image of Gary Cooper as the silent, strong man who did what he needed to do. Gary Cooper didn't whine. He was a man. So, back to the theme. Gary Cooper, I suppose, is NOT A VICTIM.
Everyone should quit whining at this point and get on with it. If we would all collectively do this who knows where we would be as a country. (Now I'm probably going to hear from someone.)
Saturday, September 2, 2017
Saturday, May 20, 2017
The Wisdom of the Sopranos Part 40 (Season 4 Episode 2 No Show)
So far I agree with my earlier assessment that after Season 3 The Sopranos takes a huge dip in quality. It's just not the same show. I've been trying to put my finger on it but I think it's the growing cast. Too many new characters. What was once a strong ensemble cast is expanding with people that we really don't care about. You develop a tentative relationship to the characters on a show. When too many new people are introduced it starts to dilute the story lines. It also causes further detachment of any empathy you might feel towards the characters.
Aside from the lesson of not introducing too many new characters to a winning show is what wisdom can be learned from this episode of the Sopranos?
Careful when making derogatory comments that you don't want to get back to the subject when you are in a room full of people. Someone will repeat what you said. Even if you trust everyone because someone will think it's funny and of no consequence to repeat.
Sometimes actions have to weighed not by the immediate results but as part of a big picture. For example, what seems like a small thing might, in the big scheme of things might be ultimately harmful.
If a person seems to be waffling on their opinions about something it's not always that they are fickle. They might be trying to work out how they feel, or what they believe, about it.
You can undermine someone in such a way that the person you are trying to get back at knows it's you but you can still claim innocence. But, the message is still heard. You just have to be prepared for the consequences. It's a gamble.
Carmela and Tony are discussing Meadow's attitude about going back to school. She has been angry all summer. Carmela told Tony that it is she that Meadow blames. Why do we think that is? I think Carmela realizes while Tony's level of involvement in that thing of theirs is part of who he is, it's inescapable. However, Carmela has had a choice all this time. She could have either not entered this marriage or at some point after the marriage could have left Tony. By staying she is being submissive to Tony. No matter how strong Carmela appears to be she's really dependent on Tony. Meadow is a young woman trying to learn what it means to be a woman and can't really look to her mother for how to be a strong, independent woman.
Aside from the lesson of not introducing too many new characters to a winning show is what wisdom can be learned from this episode of the Sopranos?
Careful when making derogatory comments that you don't want to get back to the subject when you are in a room full of people. Someone will repeat what you said. Even if you trust everyone because someone will think it's funny and of no consequence to repeat.
Sometimes actions have to weighed not by the immediate results but as part of a big picture. For example, what seems like a small thing might, in the big scheme of things might be ultimately harmful.
If a person seems to be waffling on their opinions about something it's not always that they are fickle. They might be trying to work out how they feel, or what they believe, about it.
You can undermine someone in such a way that the person you are trying to get back at knows it's you but you can still claim innocence. But, the message is still heard. You just have to be prepared for the consequences. It's a gamble.
Carmela and Tony are discussing Meadow's attitude about going back to school. She has been angry all summer. Carmela told Tony that it is she that Meadow blames. Why do we think that is? I think Carmela realizes while Tony's level of involvement in that thing of theirs is part of who he is, it's inescapable. However, Carmela has had a choice all this time. She could have either not entered this marriage or at some point after the marriage could have left Tony. By staying she is being submissive to Tony. No matter how strong Carmela appears to be she's really dependent on Tony. Meadow is a young woman trying to learn what it means to be a woman and can't really look to her mother for how to be a strong, independent woman.
Sunday, May 14, 2017
The Wisdom of the Sopranos Part 39 (Season 4 Episode 1 For All Debts Public and Private)
Side Notes:
The tragedy of 9-11 happened between Seasons 3 and 4 and the same fear and apprehension that we all felt was reflected well in this episode of the Sopranos. Economic downturn was interfering with business. Tony & Carmela fought about money, and the future if something was to happen to Tony. The best line came from Carmela, "everything comes to an end". I've always felt that Season 4 was the beginning of the end of the Sopranos. The show no longer had the same outstanding quality of the first three seasons. After Season 4 I quit re-watching episodes. Where I watched Seasons 1-3 probably 5 times before I started this blog and Season 4 for maybe twice, I didn't re-watch Seasons 5 & 6. I just didn't think they stood up to the earlier seasons. Since many years have passed maybe I can look at these episodes with fresh eyes and gain a different perspective. We'll have to see. But, more about the episode at hand.
Christopher is doing drugs and hiding it by shooting up in his foot instead of putting the needle some place where others can see. So, if you want to do something that you want to keep secret find a way to hide it under everyone's noses or in this case feet!
It's important when you are trying to curry favor that you pick the right time to talk. Knowing when someone is receptive to what you are saying is vital. It helps, therefore, to know the person you are trying to persuade.
Tony sets Christopher up to kill a retired police officer. He tells Christopher that this man killed this father. When Christopher goes to kill him the man tells Christopher that he's been set up. Christopher tells him that it doesn't matter, that the person who told him this wants him dead. This isn't a lesson so much for you, my reader, as it was for Christopher. He knew that this man may not have really killed his father but if Tony wanted him killed it was his job. So, Christopher understood his responsibility to Tony.
Be suspicious if someone tries come to your aid if it seems they might gain financially from what they are proposing. For example, Tony find out that there is economic development coming into an area where Uncle Jr. has property. Tony offers to buy it from Uncle Jr. to help him get money for his upcoming trial. Of course, maybe I can't really blame Tony. After all Uncle Jr. did try to get Tony wacked. What a crazy family!
When you are trying to appear more powerful or important let the person you are talking to know that something they did wasn't acceptable. Even a subtle reminder but very effective. It's like scolding a child. I'm referring to the Boss of NY who told Tony that he heard he had a cookout. When Tony said he did the Boss of NY told him, "A don doesn't wears shorts". Tony was clearly irritated at being told this but all he could do is ignore the unkind comment. (If memory serves me right I believe David Chase was interviewed one and told a story where a real wise guy came up to him and told him he enjoyed the show and it was really realistic. However, the part where Tony was wearing shorts would never happen. A wise guy doesn't wear shorts.)
The tragedy of 9-11 happened between Seasons 3 and 4 and the same fear and apprehension that we all felt was reflected well in this episode of the Sopranos. Economic downturn was interfering with business. Tony & Carmela fought about money, and the future if something was to happen to Tony. The best line came from Carmela, "everything comes to an end". I've always felt that Season 4 was the beginning of the end of the Sopranos. The show no longer had the same outstanding quality of the first three seasons. After Season 4 I quit re-watching episodes. Where I watched Seasons 1-3 probably 5 times before I started this blog and Season 4 for maybe twice, I didn't re-watch Seasons 5 & 6. I just didn't think they stood up to the earlier seasons. Since many years have passed maybe I can look at these episodes with fresh eyes and gain a different perspective. We'll have to see. But, more about the episode at hand.
Christopher is doing drugs and hiding it by shooting up in his foot instead of putting the needle some place where others can see. So, if you want to do something that you want to keep secret find a way to hide it under everyone's noses or in this case feet!
It's important when you are trying to curry favor that you pick the right time to talk. Knowing when someone is receptive to what you are saying is vital. It helps, therefore, to know the person you are trying to persuade.
Tony sets Christopher up to kill a retired police officer. He tells Christopher that this man killed this father. When Christopher goes to kill him the man tells Christopher that he's been set up. Christopher tells him that it doesn't matter, that the person who told him this wants him dead. This isn't a lesson so much for you, my reader, as it was for Christopher. He knew that this man may not have really killed his father but if Tony wanted him killed it was his job. So, Christopher understood his responsibility to Tony.
Be suspicious if someone tries come to your aid if it seems they might gain financially from what they are proposing. For example, Tony find out that there is economic development coming into an area where Uncle Jr. has property. Tony offers to buy it from Uncle Jr. to help him get money for his upcoming trial. Of course, maybe I can't really blame Tony. After all Uncle Jr. did try to get Tony wacked. What a crazy family!
When you are trying to appear more powerful or important let the person you are talking to know that something they did wasn't acceptable. Even a subtle reminder but very effective. It's like scolding a child. I'm referring to the Boss of NY who told Tony that he heard he had a cookout. When Tony said he did the Boss of NY told him, "A don doesn't wears shorts". Tony was clearly irritated at being told this but all he could do is ignore the unkind comment. (If memory serves me right I believe David Chase was interviewed one and told a story where a real wise guy came up to him and told him he enjoyed the show and it was really realistic. However, the part where Tony was wearing shorts would never happen. A wise guy doesn't wear shorts.)
Sunday, May 7, 2017
The Wisdom of the Sopranos Part 38 (Season 3 Episode 13 The Army of One)
When something unpleasant is going to happen you sometimes prepare others for it by sitting the stage. You sprinkle hints in conversation so that when the bad outcome happens it's not a surprise. Also, it covers your responsibility if you are successful at directing the blame elsewhere.
The best quote of this episode comes from a guy Jackie Jr was staying with when he was in hiding. It actually harkens back to the last episode about not taking short cuts. Jackie Jr. was playing chess and he got frustrated and hit the chess pieces. The response from this guy was "Play it out it's the only way your going to learn."
Pick the right time to talk to someone. It's important to know the person well enough to know when they will be receptive to what you are saying or asking for.
Don't be the first to show up at a party. It makes you look too eager.
Sometimes when you are a boss you have to make difficult decisions. If your lucky though you can delegate some decisions to others. But, even if you do that your still responsible in everyone's opinion.
This is the official end of the first half of the running of the Sopranos. I always thought that past Season 3 the show started to take a downward turn. When I started this blog I even thought about ending it after Season 3. But, thinking about everything that is going to happen I think keeping this rolling is a good thing. I'm looking forward to re-visiting these last three seasons as it's been a while and they weren't watched as often as the first three.
The best quote of this episode comes from a guy Jackie Jr was staying with when he was in hiding. It actually harkens back to the last episode about not taking short cuts. Jackie Jr. was playing chess and he got frustrated and hit the chess pieces. The response from this guy was "Play it out it's the only way your going to learn."
Pick the right time to talk to someone. It's important to know the person well enough to know when they will be receptive to what you are saying or asking for.
Don't be the first to show up at a party. It makes you look too eager.
Sometimes when you are a boss you have to make difficult decisions. If your lucky though you can delegate some decisions to others. But, even if you do that your still responsible in everyone's opinion.
This is the official end of the first half of the running of the Sopranos. I always thought that past Season 3 the show started to take a downward turn. When I started this blog I even thought about ending it after Season 3. But, thinking about everything that is going to happen I think keeping this rolling is a good thing. I'm looking forward to re-visiting these last three seasons as it's been a while and they weren't watched as often as the first three.
The Wisdom of the Sopranons Part 37 (Season 3 Episode 12 Armour Fou)
Armour Fou - uncontrollable or obsessive passion.
Some people are attracted to drama. We all know people like that who bounce from situation to situation or person to person and wonder why the end result is always the same - disaster! They are on a roller coaster and they don't know how to get off the ride. Tony for example finally realized that Gloria was just like his mother. All doom and gloom and darkness. It takes a lot of therapy to realize sometimes that you are that hamster. Tony finally got it and jumped off the wheel.
Watch what you say to children or in the case young adults. When sharing stories of the past it's important to think how your audience is going to take that information. Sometimes they think that information is useful to their existing problem. The result is not always the same and sometimes, as in this case, deadly.
Don't try to take short cuts. Seriously, stop that. In business or your personal life sometimes it's best to follow the rules and work though your progress. Skipping the line or ignoring the normal order of things is not always a good thing.
Manipulation is the name of the game when you push someone for a specific, desired response by lobbying the appropriate measured verbal attacks on your intended perpetrator. You want them to push the situation where you are sometimes too afraid to take it yourself.
Saturday, January 14, 2017
The Wisdom of the Sopranos Part 36 (Season 3 Episode 11 Pine Barrons)
This episode is one of my favorites because it has it's funny moments.
The themes in this episode seem to be about communication and trust.
Who Gloria reminds Tony of is finally starting to sink in a bit. Gloria starts a fight with Tony by twisting his words when he wants to be honest with her. So, it's important to know that there are some people and/or some situations where it doesn't really matter how you express yourself, it's going to cause a fight.
In life don't forget the answers are not always straight ahead. Sometimes you have to look up. (Literally in this situation. When Paulie & Christopher are looking for the Russian in the woods he's obviously hiding in the trees.)
Paulie & Christopher get lost in the woods. They demonstrate a lack of trust throughout the entire experience. At the end though Christopher backs up Paulie's version of the story of what happened with the Russian. When people are confronted with adverse conditions, for example the cold, their base instincts are heightened. They are their worst selves. For example, blaming others through deflection, not sharing what little food they might have with each other, etc.
Other trust issues are Meadow not trusting Jackie Jr. and Gloria not trusting that Tony had a legitimate reason for being late to dinner and leaving early.
Communication was also key in this episode. Cell phones that went in and out and my favorite funny quotes are Paulie not understanding Tony and repeating to Christopher about the Russian, "He was an Interior Decorator!" and Christopher responding, "His house looks like shit!". Okay, for that you had to be there. But, it's funny. Trust me.
Lastly, Dr. Melfi is again leading Tony down the road of helping him see things more clearly. At the end of the episode she asks him again who does Gloria remind him of? Come on Tony, you are so close!
The themes in this episode seem to be about communication and trust.
Who Gloria reminds Tony of is finally starting to sink in a bit. Gloria starts a fight with Tony by twisting his words when he wants to be honest with her. So, it's important to know that there are some people and/or some situations where it doesn't really matter how you express yourself, it's going to cause a fight.
In life don't forget the answers are not always straight ahead. Sometimes you have to look up. (Literally in this situation. When Paulie & Christopher are looking for the Russian in the woods he's obviously hiding in the trees.)
Paulie & Christopher get lost in the woods. They demonstrate a lack of trust throughout the entire experience. At the end though Christopher backs up Paulie's version of the story of what happened with the Russian. When people are confronted with adverse conditions, for example the cold, their base instincts are heightened. They are their worst selves. For example, blaming others through deflection, not sharing what little food they might have with each other, etc.
Other trust issues are Meadow not trusting Jackie Jr. and Gloria not trusting that Tony had a legitimate reason for being late to dinner and leaving early.
Communication was also key in this episode. Cell phones that went in and out and my favorite funny quotes are Paulie not understanding Tony and repeating to Christopher about the Russian, "He was an Interior Decorator!" and Christopher responding, "His house looks like shit!". Okay, for that you had to be there. But, it's funny. Trust me.
Lastly, Dr. Melfi is again leading Tony down the road of helping him see things more clearly. At the end of the episode she asks him again who does Gloria remind him of? Come on Tony, you are so close!
Tuesday, December 6, 2016
The Wisdom of the Sopranos Part 35 (Season 3 Episode 10 To Save Us all From Satan's Power")
Sometimes something will happen to trigger a memory. It can cause you to see things in a new light. Hindsight is 20/20. When you are living you don't always see things the way they really are. It's difficult to pay attention to the signs when they are right in front of you. It's only later, when time has passed that you can see things for what they truly are.
It's good to know who you can trust.
Once you cast suspicion it's hard to get trust back.
It's good to know who you can trust.
Once you cast suspicion it's hard to get trust back.
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